There are times in life when you come across a person unexpected. A human being who, although outwardly like any other, i.e. affable, rational and harmless, turns out to be the temporary bane of your existence. We’ve all come across them, occasionally even seen the approach, these left-fielders that for some unavoidable reason we must interact with. It may be a neighbour, shop assistant, work colleague – whatever form they assume we know that for the immediate future there’s no choice but to engage. And we do this because there is something of value at stake.
I can count on two hands the times this has happened to me, and in the past the result hasn’t been pretty. There was a stage when it felt like I actually became the physical embodiment for the anger or disappointment that a person invoked. An all-consuming, mind take-over would occur, leaving my usually calm disposition trailing far in the distance. And no matter how bizarre the thought patterns of the other person, how misguided or even malicious their actions, I would rise to the bait out of sheer disbelief at the outrageousness. And of course out of ego. Now, however, it’s quite a different story.
Most people have heard and perhaps subscribe to belief that when you come across a person who ‘makes you’ feel uncomfortable or ‘causes you’ to react out of character, they’re reflecting something within or about yourself that needs addressing or learning from. Here though, I want to make a few comments about energy. When I have a disagreement or feel in misalignment with a person, not only do I question what I need to learn from it, what resources I need to acquire or cultivate in myself, I also question what vibrational frequency I must be on to still be attracting this sort of energy into my life. I’m a firm believer that anything which enters into my world – good or bad – is because I have invited it at an conscious or unconscious level. You can’t pick up a radio or TV station unless you’re on the correct frequency and the same can be said of worldly interactions.
There are some people who appear to operate on such profoundly different levels, you can tell by the conversations you have with them, from the way you feel when you’re around them. These are the energy forces we really need to pay attention to because life transforms when we do. The advice I would give anyone is:
1: first work on yourself (NLP is my go-to every time) to feel, understand and then to realign or remove any negative emotional attachments to these situations. By doing this you’re able to look at things from an objective standpoint and it leaves ample room for clear thought and analysis. If your energy jars with someone else’s, the worst thing you can do is wade through it without a plan and emotion-riddled.
2: observe and question repeatedly until you know the situation from as many perspectives as possible – not just your own.
3: cement all learnings by integrating them into as many memories as possible
4: let it go and move on
With differing energies it isn’t always a negative situation that alerts you to a change you need to make. It can be incredibly subtle and as you become more in tune with yourself you start to pick up on the smallest vibrations. Everyday I consciously try to raise the frequency that I’m on, by eating the right foods, meditating, working out, all in an attempt to weed out anything within me that may attract something I consciously do not want. I do this because I eagerly look forward to the day where all the energy shifts I make are of an upward trajectory. Open and receiving the many different perspectives of life, rather than closed and defending the few.