Although a fear of rejection can rear its head at any time in life, as we get older there is the tendency for it to become felt a little more keenly.
We feel as though there is more to lose, more at stake because our time to achieve what we want is running out. Unveiling our personality, our bodies, our beliefs is done hesitantly – we think a partner isn’t going to find us attractive, successful enough, interesting enough.
This whole train of emotion slows down our progress in love, and whether we know it or not, can blinker us to some amazing opportunities.
So let’s break it down, and let it go
Rejection is someone’s choice…
Rejection is merely a person making a choice about their life, a choice that doesn’t include you.
It is that simple.
It is not always about you. So get your head out of your own ass. Please, for your own sake.
It may be that their decision means you don’t get to be their lover, their life partner or even their friend, but you have to respect that it’s their life and their decision, all the same.
We all have the right to make choices and plans that we believe fit us best, we do it every day. Allow people the same courtesy and space when they are evaluating your place in their own life.
Rejection is NOT always feedback…
Rejection is not always feedback but sometimes, it is.
For those of you that are ultra sensitive, any sort opinion or action that doesn’t immediately appear positive or is even too neutral can be cause for concern and self-doubt.
The good news is that nothing can sort between rejection and feedback faster than a mind which is confident and comfortable.
So, if you’re turned down for dates because people think you’re too needy, or that your fashion sense is too much to deal with, use this as valuable feedback and up the ante. Maybe you’ll hold out for someone who can handle your multiple needs, or who is just as eccentrically stylish.
Rejection is your Achilles heel…
Usually a person’s fear of rejection is a tell-tale sign of where they’re least confident in their lives. For example, if a person fears being rejected because of their income or looks, they may themselves believe that they should be earning more or be better looking to be worth someone else’s time.
Narrow down your own fear of rejection into specifics and then ask yourself how you feel about that area of your life. What can you change, so that your attitude develops and it is no longer a hang-up for you?
Rejection is your signal to change…
It may be hard to believe that there is anything at all positive about your fear but actually, there is. Your mind, when it fears something is usually trying to protect you. For example, if you’re in a fearful state about relationships, then it’s less likely that you’ll put yourself in ‘danger’ by dating people or having successful ones.
Is your own fear of rejection there to stop you from being as upset as you were the last time love was unrequited, or didn’t work out? Identify what your mind is trying to protect you from and make a conscious decision (spoken aloud if necessary) to seek help for it.
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